The Mumsnet community has found this blog and are
intelligently discussing the extensive content largely insulting and degrading me, personally, over my previous antinatalist posts — 2 entire posts out of nearly 100 comprising this project which is about surviving (and not surviving) as a chronically ill female in end-stage capitalism and patriarchy. I suppose the Mums’ days aren’t full up enough what with the extreme demands of catering to their fuck trophies and future soldiers, rapists and victims, otherwise known as children under the same global system, and asking each other whether they are “being unreasonable” for wanting to be regarded as human beings by their male owners.
The Mums at Mumset also believe that talking to the men at Mumset — the Duds, I guess? — about feminism is a good use of their time. The Mum who started this discussion also apparently thinks it’s just duckie to ask impregnators (and the impregnated) what they think about antinatalism, as if the strong bias towards natalism on Mumsnet and in a global capitalist patriarchy in general isn’t obvious. Yes the Mums and Duds on Mumsnet seem to think that natalists and pro-natalists are the endangered cognitive minority in need of protection from the handful of antinatalists that exist on the internet and who do not appear to exist anywhere in real life because they and the antinatalist perspective are routinely and systematically silenced.
There is a lot to unpack in the above vid which is a recent upload from the Swedish Homesteading channel on YouTube and I do not endorse it wholly. But as a chronically ill woman responding to the natalist Mumsnutters I will use it to illustrate the concept that passing along defective genes and/or a defective mothering instinct violates natural law. It is only allowed to happen via millenia of unnatural patriarchal and later, capitalistic social engineering which requires it because creating a population of generationally weak, defective humans makes a fine pool of vulnerable victims for males and male institutions to abuse from cradle to grave. They can and literally do take that to the bank.
I have shown here before the medical research indicating that autistic children, especially boys, are born autistic (read: brain damaged) because their mothers were subclinical, undiagnosed or fully diagnosed autoimmune patients whose immune systems attacked the proteins in the fetal brain in utero. The 1990s, which is when most of my peer group were having their children, was when the autism/ASD epidemic absolutely exploded in this country but only now, 30 years later, is anyone realizing it wasn’t just a problem with the children — my entire generation of women, the generation that birthed the first recognized Autism Generation, likely (well, demonstrably) were and are seriously chronically ill with inheritable, incurable and progressive autoimmune conditions including multiple sclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis, and inflammatory bowel disease including the hideous, disabling disease I suffer from, Crohn’s disease.
In my own case, I was a “colicky baby” (which in hindsight was probably undiagnosed pediatric Crohn’s) and my constant wails and inability to be soothed allegedly served as birth control for my mother’s friends but not for herself, where even though she never wanted children in the first place she went on to gestate and birth twice more. My brother was born with a congenital heart defect which eventually killed him while my sister is the now somewhat regretful “Mum” of a 5 year old autistic girl whose birth/defect casts suspicion on my sister’s health as well, doesn’t it.
In light of the above vid which the creator has captioned “Natural selection is brutal but necessary. Sadly humans intervene all too often and create livestock that is weak and we end up having to keep them alive with medicine…” I conclude that my own mother should’ve done what was probably the correct and natural response to a miserable, inconsolable infant — she should’ve smothered me with a pillow while she had the chance. She should’ve done the same thing to my brother too, or rather, when he came out of the womb and instantly turned blue because his congenital heart defect was not compatible with life she should’ve taken a couple of deep breaths and just let him, mercifully, die. As it was, we all got to suffer right along with him through 21 years of medicalized torture which I have written about before and of course he died anyway, with all of us watching, forever traumatized by it. As it was, my mother was and is a coward who let capitalism and patriarchy have its way with her children. And don’t think I’m letting the Dud off easy here — it goes without saying that she should’ve ended him the first time he raped her.
I have so, so much more to say about this but I think that will have to do for now. I wish that those who support the antinatalist perspective would be brave about it and agree publically, or create supportive or even groundbreaking content of their own on the subject and put it out there, in the public domain, for everyone to see. If they did, maybe it wouldn’t be so easy for people to pretend that the antinatalist perspective is extreme/fringe, or irrational (but paradoxically also the oppressive majority oppressing the natalists with our inaction) when it’s clearly neither extreme nor irrational: many thinking people from many political backgrounds support antinatalism and the critique of the nuclear (!) family because it’s based in reality and frankly unassailable logic. This more or less global capitalist patriarchy is no place to be impregnated, it’s no place to gestate and birth, and as it turns out it’s literally no place to raise happy, healthy children when so many of us, generations of us, are seriously, incurably and progressively ill.